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Lolita Level Up!

I recently came across this post from Pale+Lace and it seemed like a lot of fun, especially for April Fool’s Day today, so I decided to play as well! Of course this is purely satirical and is just for fun.

The earliest version I could find is this 2010 post from Parfat Doll, so I’m assuming that’s the origin. If I’m mistaken please let me know!

Ever met another lolita who seems to know it all? Fabulous hair, mincing steps, and some sort of savoir-faire that you’re missing? Ever wanted to know how to ‘level up’? You’re not the only one. How do you jump from ita to lolita extraordinare? Well, you use this handy level-counter of course!

Each criteria is a level. Add up your total and then put yourself into a category. Repost this to your own blog, website, or journal, bolding the ones that apply to you, and then show your score/level at the bottom. The only rule is that you must add one lolita ‘level’ to the list!

*please note that this post is tagged as humor. satire only, dolls!

LOLITA LEVEL START!

You’ve been to egl.
You’ve posted on egl, without an onslaught of ‘USE THE MEMORIES’ and likewise.
You’ve bought a lolita mook.
You’ve picked a favorite brand.
You’ve ordered your first item.
You’ve worn a full outfit.
You’ve worn a full outfit out in public.
You’ve worn a full outfit and posted photos of it on the Internet.

You know what JSK, OP, and cutsew all mean.
You’ve bought your first brand piece.
You know your measurements.
You know you shoe size – in American, European, and Japanese.
You know who Mr. Yan is.
You know who Mana is. (+1 points if you know his band. +2 points if you know his brand. +3 points if you know why he’s featured in every GLB. +4 if you have a shrine to him in your closet.)
You know who Maki and Asuka are. (+2 if you’ve met Maki and Asuka).
You’ve watched Kamikaze Girls. (+1 if you know the real name of this movie. +2 if you know who wrote the book this was based on. +3 if you’ve also read the manga or novel. +4 if you love the author despite his criminal record).
You own a wig. (+1 if you own more than 2.)
You own a pair of falls.
You can identify lace on the spot.
You can identify an item’s brand on the spot.

You can identify the year a dress was made by a specific brand on the spot.
You can name several different dresses or prints.
You answer stock photo requests.
You mod a lolita community.
You decorate your nails. (+1 if you wear fake nails. +2 if you make fake nails.)
You own a pair of a rocking horse shoes. (+1 if you know their abbreviation.)
You’ve made your own rose corsage.
You’ve made anything out of your brand dress’s waist ties.
You’ve made anything out of a matching eco tote. (+3 if you were the first one to do it, you think).
You know how to apply false eyelashes.
You know how to pronounce shirring.
You know how to pronounce Moi-meme-moitie, or Metamorphose tempes de fille.
You know a reliable shopping service.
You bid on Yahoo!Japan or Mbok.
You’ve been to a meetup.
You’ve planned a meetup.
You’ve planned a meetup with catering or more than 20 attendees.
You’ve met up with lolitas while on vacation to foreign or faraway locales.
You’ve seen a lolita fashion show.
You’ve seen a brand fashion show.
You’ve modeled in a lolita fashion show.
You’ve modeled in a brand lolita fashion show.
You wear bloomers.
You know how to make bloomers.
You tell other people to wear bloomers.
You draw lolita art, write a lolita blog, or provide the community with some sort of creative services.
You’ve taken purikura in lolita.
You’ve decorated your room/house/apartment in lolita style.
You’ve listened to lolita music.
You’ve learned kana.
You’ve learned enough Japanese to read a magazine.
You wear or own circle lenses.
You’ve been called a princess by a young child.
You’ve dressed up a friend.

You’ve convert a friend.
You’ve been in media (television, newspaper, magazine). (+2 points if it’s Japanese media.)
You’ve learned a handicraft, like jewelry making, embroidery, or sewing.
You’ve become a lolita mentor.
You’ve attended lolita events at an anime or multi-genre convention.
You’ve organized or presented lolita events at a convention.
You’ve visited a brand shop.
Trip to Japan!

You’ve dressed up and gone out alone.
You’re prepared for inclement or colder weather in lolita (coat, parasol, boots, gloves, other climate-specific items.)
You’ve learned face contouring (Personal note: I don’t contour in Lolita and prefer a more naturally flawless look, but I do know how).
You’ve made a lolita valentine.
You’ve got a lolita pen pal or online lolita friends.
You have local lolita friends.
You know how to modify clothes that don’t fit you.
You know how to dress for your body type.
You’ve been in a street snap.
You’ve been to multiple world locations of the same brand store (BABY Paris, BABY Tokyo, BABY San Francisco, etc.)
You’ve created a makeup/hair/sewing tutorial.
You’ve sold hand-created lolita goods.
You have your own lolita fashion line.
You’ve gotten a lolita haircut, style, or color.
You’ve mixed other street fashions with lolita.
You’ve thrown a lolita party/had a lolita wedding.
You’ve dressed your child/small children in lolita or kodona style.
You’ve successfully cross-dressed in lolita style at least once (boystyle for girls and girls’ clothing for guys).
You’ve lolified or made sure all the contents of your purse are cute (wallet, lipgloss, keyring, etc.)
You have a lolita pet (small dogs, cats, rabbits, exotic birds, fancy fish) or have dressed/accessorized your pet (bows or pet clothes).
You’ve dressed your significant other or dated someone who dresses in J-fashion/alternative fashion.
You’ve read Alice in Wonderland. (+1 if you’ve seen the animated movie or other variations, +2 if you’ve seen more than one variation, +3 if you own more than one variation)
You’ve dressed as Alice or another Wonderland character in lolita style, or own Alice themed items.
You’ve made something from a Japanese pattern.
You’ve found, bought, or made lolita underwear (bras and panties).
You wear lolita daily, or have gone 7 days straight wearing only lolita.
You have lolita calling cards or business cards.
You play a lolita instrument (i.e., piano, violin, harp, French horn… well any instrument really.)
You can translate yen to your country’s currency in your head. (+1 if you can convert other currencies you shop with as well. +2 if you read the news to know how the yen is doing.)
You’ve sold lolita clothing online (secondhand, egl_comm_sales).
Your article or entry has been put into the egl memories.
You take photos of your outfits/daily outfit photos.
You’ve posted to daily_lolita.
You own a petticoat. (+1 if you own more than one. +2 if you wear three or more at a time) (Personal note: I have worn 3 at a time, but sadly most of my wardrobe can’t accommodate this so it’s not a regular thing).
You’ve bought a lucky pack.
You keep a style diary or look-book.
You can put together an outfit made entirely from offbrand.
You’ve bought offbrand or non-Japanese brand.

My Lolita level is: 64 or 71, since I’m not sure whether the (+1, +2, etc) parts stack or not. Either way places me in the same tier though.

Adorable Admirer (lvls 1 – 20) You’ve started studying or liking lolita but haven’t taken that leap of faith yet. Good luck!

Resplendant Rufflebutt (lvls 21 – 40) At home within the land of the rufflebutts and spilling frills from every edge.

Victorian Maiden (lvls 41 – 60) A classy lolita of taste and experience, who knows her way around the lolita social set.

Starry Celebrity (lvls 61 – 80) On page six of the lolita world, you’ve risen to the ring of the upper crust.

Pretty Princess (lvls 81 – 100) Lolita royalty, truly versed in the ways of the lacey ones, the lolita princesses have achieved a special level of enlightenment.

Ultimate Lolita (Boss Fight!) (lvls 100+) Wow, you’ve gotten over 100 levels? You’re the ultimate lolita with unlimited hitpoints. That’s actually a little scary…

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Nails to Match my Favorite Looks

Today I drew a topic for Lolita 52 week 5, Nails to match my favorite Lolita looks. Since the majority of my wardrobe is Classic and Sweet-Classic, and since I tend to shy away from OTT styles, I typically keep my nails short and understated for Lolita fashion. Most of the time I’ll have shellac French tips because they’re so versatile.

That’s pretty boring though, so I decided to take a look around the Internet and find some more interesting options.

Fawn Nails from Lucy’s Stash:

http://www.lucysstash.com/2016/06/paint-all-the-nails-presents-animal-print-fawn-print

These fawn nails would go perfectly with some of my favorite forest-themed dresses, like Little Squirrel or Lotta, especially if the nails were shorter. I’m pretty sad that I don’t have the skill to be able to do something like this, because to be honest I’m completely in love.

Lace Nail Art from Lulus:

http://blog.lulus.com/beauty/manicure-monday-lace-nails-with-syl-and-sam/

This does seem like a lot of work, but it also seems like it would require less skill than the fawn nails. I’m tempted to give it a try, and I think it’d be gorgeous with a more sophisticated Sweet coordinate.

Black and Gold Nails from Aya 1 Gou:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/193544856/3d-nails-gothic-lolita-lolita-nails-egl

While it’s a little *more* than I’m likely to do, I absolutely love OTT Classic Juliette et Justine coordinates, and this set of false Nails brings that look immediately to mind. They would go well with this coord from Miss Caro Chan of F Yeah Lolita, for example:

So that’s that. I’m pretty likely to continue to stick to my shellac French tips, but I did have a lot of fun writing this post and looking for some new options. If I ever do branch out I’ll be sure to take lots of pictures and write about how it all goes. Until next time!

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My Birthday and the Crown and Crumpet Tea Room

My birthday was on Sunday and my husband took a friend and I to Japantown in San Francisco to celebrate. We had tea at the Crown and Crumpet, a tea room just downstairs from Baby SF, then we went to Baby and the Japantown malls. This is my favorite coord shot, though I wasn’t a huge fan of the face I made lol:

I still hadn’t worn my Ticking Clock JSK that I bought back in November, so I decided to finally show it some love. It has a lot of star detailing (mainly the trim near the bottom and the gold star charm on the bodice), so I thought it would pair nicely with my Chocomint star clip. I also happened to have this pink blouse with star lace that matches the pink on the jsk almost perfectly. I don’t have any star jewelry, but thought that clocks match the Peter Pan theme just as well.

Coord rundown:

JSK: Alice and the Pirates

Blouse: Baby, the Stars Shine Bright

Purse: Angelic Pretty

Headbow: Handmade

Star Clip and jewelry: Chocolate

Socks and wig: Bodyline

Shoes: Offbrand

I had been to the Crown and Crumpet before, and of course it’s very Lolita-friendly. I’d never had their tea service though, since they also have full-sized sandwiches and desserts. I requested a vegetarian version, so it was slightly different from usual.

It came with five desserts, both a scone and a crumpet (the scone was especially good), a salad, two mini quiches, and  I a small piece of bread with cream cheese and cucumber. There were two finger sandwiches that aren’t visible in my photo. The food was on the better side, and came with more than most I’ve tried for comparable prices.

After tea we went upstairs to BTSSB. Of course there’s no photography allowed in the store, and I didn’t try anything on and left empty-handed (I’m proud of myself for that).

Last, we went to the Japantown mall for purikura and shopping. I got the latest G&LB, some false eyelashes, and taiyaki. I had a great time! I’ll try to remember to take more photos the next time I go.

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Lolita 52: Whats in My Makeup Bag

It didn’t take me long to get off-track on the Lolita 52 challenge, did it? To be honest the reason I stopped was because I misplaced the slips with the prompts on them. I found them though, so I’ve decided to post more than one per week until I’m caught up. I believe I’m nine weeks behind as it stands. Whoops!

Anyway for the fourth prompt I drew “What’s in my makeup bag.” I’ve already done a version of this here, so I thought I’d change it up a bit and focus specifically on makeup that I like to wear to Lolita meets and what I use for my go-to look for most events.

The look I usually go for is somewhat understated and uses a lot of neutral colors, but I tend to go heavier on blush than I would for an everyday look. I also typically use different products on meet days than I do for my usual makeup, largely because it is essential that meet makeup photograph well.

The products I use (in the order I use them): 

Too Cool for School Egg Mellow Cream – I go through a full skincare routine when I get up in the morning, but I always moisturize again when I start to do my makeup. Egg Mellow Cream is probably too heavy for most people but my skin is very dry and I find that it works beautifully for me.

Becca Ever-Matte Poreless Priming Perfector – This isn’t my usual everyday primer, but I really love it for meet days. Nothing moves or creases, and the matte, poreless-looking finish helps a lot with photos.

Urban Decay Anti-Aging Primer Potion – An eyeshadow primer is essential for event makeup.  I think that for Sweet and Classic styles, makeup should usually be understated and somewhat natural-looking, especially in photos. Using an eyeshadow primer helps prevent eyeshadow from creasing, and goes a long way in ensuring that it stays well-blended and perfect throughout the day.

e.l.f. Brow Pomade – This is from CVS and isn’t very good. I wouldn’t really recommend it to anyone else, but I use it because my natural hair color has sort of a red tint and I have a tough time finding reddish brown pomade. That’s the only reason.

Tarte Tartelette Tease Pallette – I put Wink all over my lid, then use Whisper to hilight my brow bone and the inner corner of my eye. Afterwards, I’ll use First Kiss and Heartbreaker on my outer v and crease. The result is pretty light and subtle, but adds dimension.

Kat Von D Ink Liner – I line my upper lashes only, keeping close to the lashline, making the line thicker on the outer edge. I don’t do a wing or anything else that would draw too much attention most of the time. The idea is just to lift the eye and camouflage false eyelash application.

Maybelline Great Lash Mascara in Dark Brown – I almost exclusively use drugstore mascara since it doesn’t last long. I prefer to stick to brown over black to avoid going too dark. Once I’ve curled my lashes and applied mascara, I put on false lashes. I use a variety, but typically stick to short, fine ones with criss-crossed lashes to achieve a natural-ish volume without overdoing it. The ones I used today are from Daiso, but I don’t think they make these particular ones anymore.

Too Faced Born This Way Foundation in Pearl – I’m more likely to use BB cream on a daily basis, but for events where I’m likely to have my picture taken I will use this foundation. It offers a fair amount of coverage without being too cakey and it photographs really well. My only complaint is that it doesn’t come in a light enough shade for me in the winter. Now that we’re going into spring though, it matches me perfectly. I pat it on with my fingers (I wash my hands well first!) and then blend it with a sponge.

Nars Radient Creamy Concealer in Cannelle – I love this concealer. It’s a new addition to my makeup collection and I can’t figure out how I got by without it. I just apply this under my eyes and blend with a sponge.

e.l.f Blush Palette in Light – Unlike the brow pomade, I actually love this blush palette. I typically use the top two shades. First, I blend the top left peachy shade from my temples to my cheeks, then I apply the pink shade on the apples of my cheeks and blend it out. The result is too heavy for normal wear, but perfect for Sweet-Classic Lolita.

Bare Minerals Mineral Veil Finishing Powder – I love the matte finish this gives. It photographs well. I also find that it sets my concealer especially well, doesn’t accentuate any skin dryness, and minimizes the look of pores.

Mac Lipliner in Spice and Lipstick in Velvet Teddy – My lip color changes depending on the coord, but since I actually only did my makeup for this post and not for a meet today, I decided to go with Velvet Teddy because it’s just a bit darker than a nude lip and so is probably the color I use the most. Sometimes I’ll wear Kat Von D Double Dare or something a little more peachy or brown, but this color works with almost everything.

So there you have it! Not exactly what’s in my makeup bag, but I hope it’s fun to read through all the same. I’ll be back soon with my Week 5 post (only 8 weeks late)!

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Lolita Blog Carnival: Create a Cooord Based on your Favorite Chocolate Bar

My favorite chocolate bar is the Dark Chocolate Lover’s Chocolate Bar from Trader Joe’s. The bar itself is a pretty deep brown, and the packaging uses some very underused colors for Lolita fashion, so I was excited to participate in this week’s challenge.

Unfortunately, I couldn’t match the green/yellow color with pieces from my wardrobe, so I tried to just stick to the general palette instead. I felt those colors are best suited to Classic, as is the chocolate itself. It’s more bitter than sweet, and reminds me of more mature styles of Lolita.

Rundown:

Blouse- Victorian Maiden

Skirt – Metamorphose

Bolero, headband, bow, UTKs – Innocent World

Shoes – Random Item (eBay)

The coord I ended up with uses much more ivory than I would have liked, but that’s mainly because of the constraints of having a smallish wardrobe. Overall it still essentially captures the idea and feeling that I had in-mind.

This week’s participants:

Cupcake Kamisama’s Lolita World

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The English Rose Tea Room

My mom and I went to The English Rose in Pleasanton last  a week, continuing my project of trying tea rooms around the Bay Area. I’ve been to the English Rode before, and it’s definitely one of my favorite places to go while wearing Lolita fashion. The staff is always friendly, and the decor suits Classic and Sweet especially well. One thing to note though is that it is somewhat cramped, so it’s usually best to wear a moderately-sized petticoat to avoid knocking anything over.

One thing that sets the English Rose apart from other Tea Rooms in the area is the tea itself. It tends to be especially good, and they don’t bring it out to the table until it’s perfectly brewed. Additionally, while most tea rooms only bring one pot of tea per person, here you may order as many different teas as you’d like at no extra charge. After finishing off a pot, it’s perfectly fine to ask for a different type. That alone gives the English Rose a considerable edge over similar places in the Bay Area, in my opinion.

The food here is also especially good. The prices are comparable to those of other tea rooms in the area (the Queen’s Tea is about $30 per person), but they include considerably more food than most for that price. It includes four finger sandwiches, three savories, a scone, some fruit, and three deserts. While the specifics do change slightly, they’re almost always fantastic. Also, they’re very accommodating of any dietary restrictions.

Finally, the service here has always been exceptional in my experience. The servers are friendly and attentive, and they write personalized thank you notes on the back of the bill at the end of your seating, which I’ve always thought was an especially nice touch.

Overall, I love the English Rose. Speaking as a Lolita, there are a few cons: Pleasanton is about as far from San Francisco as can be while still being considered “Bay Area” so it would likely be inconvenient for visitors, and as I mentioned it can be a little cramped, but I consider these minor drawbacks in most cases. I’d strongly recommend that you make your way out to Pleasanton at least once, if you’re able to.

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Bow Headband Tutorial

I’ve been working on a Sweet spring coord for my AatP Ticking Clock JSK, but I’ve been unable to find headwear that matches the style I’m going for. I remembered my resolution to complete at least 6 Lolita-related sewing projects in 2017, so I decided this could be the perfect opportunity! Unfortunately I was in a hurry, so if you plan to follow along please measure better than I did, and slow down on stitching to ensure that your stitches are straight.

I started off with 1/8 yard of my chosen fabric, 1 1/4 yards of gold trim, and a thin headband.

First, I decided how wide I wanted my bow to be (based on the width of my headband), doubled that, and added 1 inch​ to the result. Then I cut a strip of fabric at that width, folded the strip in half lengthwise with wrong sides together, and ironed it flat.

I unfolded the strip, which now had a crease as a halfway marker.

Next, I folded one edge to the middle crease and pressed that to make a quarter way marker.

I wanted gold trim down the center of my bow, so I pinned it over the quarter-way crease and then hand-stitched it in place.

I cut a small (about 5 inch) section off of one end of the strip. That would be the center of my bow.

Next, I folded both sections lengthwise with right-sides together and ironed them flat.

I sewed 1/4 inch away from the edge all the way around both strips (even on the creased edge, so the gold trim would stay in the middle), leaving a small (about 1 inch) gap in the middle of the open side of the longer piece, and on one of the far ends of the short piece. Afterwards, I trimmed all the edges back and cut diagonally across each corner as close to the stitched corners as I could get without cutting through to what would be the outside. I’m afraid I forgot to photograph that step. Sorry!

Using the gaps I left, I turned both pieces right side out.

I ironed both pieces flat again, then  topstitched around the edges. I started this stitching from the middle of the gaps I had left. This way, the start and end of the stitch would be covered when the bow is finished.

Working from the center and being sure to maintain symmetry, I hand-stitched small folds into the longer strip. 

Finally, I stitched the short piece around the center of the longer strip to create a bow shape, trimmed of any hanging threads, and then sewed the entire bow to my headband. It looks sloppy on its own, but is completely covered when worn.

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Lolita Blog Carnival: 1 Main Piece, 2 Drastically Different Looks

I have a relatively small wardrobe and re-wear pieces frequently, so this week’s Lolita Blog Carnival topic is right up my alley. I chose to work with Innocent World’s Fairy Tale JSK. It’s one of my favorite pieces because of its versatility.

First, I put together a simple Sweet coord by pulling the red from the print and covering the more Classic-looking bodice. In retrospect, I should have also removed the brown waist tie.

I didn’t feel that this needed much in the way of accessories since it’s meant to be somewhat wearable, but a red or gold ring would really help to pull this look together.

Coord rundown:

KC – Angelic Pretty

Hoodie and tights – Baby, the Stars Shine Bright

Shoes – Bodyline
The second coordinate is a slightly more elaborate Classic look. For this coord, I pulled the brown from the print and added some pearl accents.

I would also wear a set of fake pearl earrings and a ring, but left them out as they were difficult to make out in the photo. There are also small pearl beads on the headdress.

I wanted to maintain the whimsey of the fairytale print, which is why I chose the UTK socks instead of more Classic legwear. I feel that the visible lace balances the lace in the top half of the coord, and that the slight sweetness of these socks helps to keep the overall look from being too mature for the print.

Coord rundown:

Headdress, bolero, and UTKs – Innocent World

Shoes and accessories – off brand

Other participants in this week’s LBC:

Poppy Noir

Vanilla Bear

Cupcakes and Unicorns

Queen and Commander

Gravelvet

Bloody Tea Party

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Camellia Tea Room

I recently decided that it might be fun to visit different tea rooms around the Bay Area, so last week my mom, grandma, and I went to downtown Benicia to try Camellia tea room.

I do really like downtown Benicia. It’s got lots of cute antique shops, restaurants, and a bookstore. But none of us had ever been to Camellia. My first impression walking in was that it’s cute, although it isnt very “Lolita” and is fairly dark inside. I wasn’t a fan of the art but I doubt that it’s always the same.

We were all very impressed with the menu, though. In addition to standard tea, sweets, and finger sandwiches, they also serve full-sized sandwiches and a few other lunch items. My mom and I ordered the traditional tea, and my grandma had a salad and a half sandwich.

The traditional tea was fairly standard in price and quality. We each got four finger sandwiches, one bruschetta, two scones, and three deserts, plus a choice of one tea each. I chose the gyokuro, and my mom chose the Kenya tea. Both were very good, but I personally preferred the gyokuro. It had a slight sweetness to it that I loved. My grandma ordered the lavender black tea, and while I’m generally not a fan of flavored tea, I was impressed with it. It may have been my favorite of the three.

Traditional tea
Tuna half-sandwich and side salad

Overall impression: our server was friendly and sweet, and the food was good although not spectacular. I didn’t particularly care for the decor, but the neighborhood is gorgeous. I love that the menu had options for lunch instead of tea service, and I think that the menu combined with the more modern interior makes Camellia particularly husband-and-boyfriend-friendly compared to most tea rooms that I’ve been to. While I don’t think I’d drive back just for tea, it’s worth coming if you’re already in the area.

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Lolita 52: Week 3

I wish I had a better story about my very first piece of Lolita, but in my case it was very anticlimactic. I first heard about Lolita around 2005, and while I didn’t fall immediately in love, I definitely appreciated the style. At the time though, it was much harder to get Lolita pieces than it is now. Brands didn’t ship overseas, and frankly I thank my lucky stars that I didn’t try to make any of it as my understanding of the fashion was hazy at best. Seriously, it would’ve been really really bad. But I learned the major brands and occasionally looked up new releases. I bought the English language G&LB when it was released by TokyoPop. My interest was casual, but definitely present.

About three years after I first learned about Lolita I found a secondhand Moitie op online. I’m not sure whether this is the exact one, but it’s very similar if not.

I was awful with money, and I got so excited at the prospect of owning a real Lolita dress that I immediately bought it. Besides, Gothic reigned supreme at the time, so the fact that it was Moitie was enough for me. To be honest though, even though I was excited, I knew it wasn’t something I’d ever wear. By the time it arrived the novelty had already worn off. I liked the dress, but it wasn’t me. I wasn’t particularly impressed, even though the quality was nice. I held on to it for a while, but never did wear it (it wasn’t flattering on me anyway). Eventually I think I think I sold it at Buffalo Exchange or something, which is a shame. I really didn’t know what I was doing at the time.

My casual interest persisted, although it was definitely dimished, and about two or three years ago I discovered Lace Market. That was really the turning point for me. I hadn’t realized how much easier it had gotten to get brand in the US. So even though my first purchase was an absolute bust, I eventually did find pieces that fit me (both my body and my style). I’ve since built up a small but functional wardrobe, and I’m very happy that my first Lolita purchase didn’t deter me too much.